Friday, June 10, 2011
Saturday, June 04, 2011
Ask Parry - Is sexting a real problem or over-hyped?
Dear Shocked: Sexting is when young people take, share and keep sexual or nude/sexually provocative images and videos with others. No one really knows how often it happens, but school administrators reach out to us daily looking fo help. Sexual precocious behavor or teens and older preteens isn't new, but their ability to share it with the world is. Conservative kids, wild kids, sexually-active and sexually-inexperienced alike are finding it easy to take and share a sexual or nude image or video with others. Often they do it on a whim, on a dare or to get the attention of someone they like, or the entire football team. Most frequently is is take for or at the request of someone they like or are dating. And sometimes they are pressured into taking a sext to avoid having to do more. Learn more about sexting, the law and what is really going on at WiredSafety.org's sexting and sextortion pages.
Monday, May 23, 2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Ask Parry: How worried do I need to be about the Sony PlayStation data breach?
If you lost your security questions, again, not a huge problem if you use different ones on each site or change the other sites' security questions right away.
If you are among the unluckier group, your financial data may have been compromied. YOur credit card or other financial account info may now be in the hackers' hands.
We created a section fo the WiredSafety site to address questions about the Sony breach. Contact the reporting agencies, learn from our site and the FTV.gov ID theft pages, watch your accounts, notify your credit card companies and change you account info on other sites.
But more than anything else, do not panic.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Monday, February 06, 2006
Social Web sites thrill kids, terrify parents
Manila Standard Today -- My dangerous space -- feb07_2006
Sunday, February 05, 2006
Myspace.com and other social networks and teens...what parents need to know.
Recently, parents, schools, teens and preteens and law enforcement have been very concerned about the growing use and often abuse of social networking websites, such as MySpace.com, Facebook.com, Xanga.com and others.
Before we begin, know that this too will pass. So take a breath and don't panic. The worst thing you can do, as a parent, is show fear. And the worse thing you can do as a preteen or teen is cause your parents to show fear. :-)
And, remember...I have been doing this for a long time and have learned that the greatest single risk our kids face in connection with the Internet is being denied access. They need it for school, future careers and their lives. We have solutions for everything else, if we look at the issues calmly, work together with our kids and members of the Internet industry.
As I get better at this podcasting thing :-), I will have special sections just for teens, for parents, for schools and for law enforcement. For now, you have to all access it at this one place. So play nice!
I have attempted to lighten the tone a bit. Parents are already freaking and the schools aren't far behind. Freaked adults can't approach a problem in a productive way. So, my first tip for parents (and schools) is "Don't panic!"
We have a program called "Take5!" for our kids, preteens and teens. It is designed to teach them not to lash out online when something upsets them. We tell them to step away for the computer and no one will get hurt. (Using the Law & Order voice). Having your hand on the mouse is too tempting when you are emotional. Parents need to Take5! here. If they over-react and come on too strong, their teens will just find a way to hide what they are doing. That's bad for everyone. Parents need to be the one place their children can come and trust. The last thing we want to do is cause our children to turn to an Internet "stranger" posing as their friend for advice and comfort.
Next, after you are calm enough (it's hard being calm with all the TV shows on this subject and the other parents panicking around you) you have two choices. You can see if you can find your child's profile on your own and see what they have written that is viewable to the public, or you can ask them to show you. I opt for the second choice. But be prepared for lies and pointing fingers at their friends.
If they won't show you, or you can't find their profiles, you can talk to the school administrators. They often already have a handle on this and may know where your child's profile is located and what they are saying online. If not, you may be able to work with them or other parents to find it. The good thing is that the kids link to each others' profiles, so you only need to find one to find them all.
If none of this works...you can resort to keylogging software, like the software sold by Spectorsoft.com. It will capture your child's passwords, as well as everything they say and do online. It will log their profile address wherever they have one. It is overkill for most situations. But in this world where thirteen year olds are refusing to listen to their parents, it may be your only option.
Once you get them to either show you their profile or find it yourself, you should be looking for certai things, no matter which site your child is using.
Drop back for the next episode on this and I'll teach you what to look for.